FIVE THINGS THAT MAKE US HORRIBLE PARENTS.

 1. We feed our kids donuts a lot of donuts! You see I'm a donut junkie and since Amner is being with me for 6 years he has become a huge donut fan too, so it's only normal that my kids drug of choice are donuts. We believe that you can't buy happiness, But you can buy donuts. And that's kind of the same thing isn't? Once I told Amner that my only wish in life will be to eat a donut for breakfast everyday and never get fat, can you imagine that? that would be such a good life.

2. We don't take them to the Pumpkin patch, I know that sounds so horrible right? well if people wouldn't annoyed the crap out of us by filling our IG feed with "the perfect" pumpkin patch pictures maybe we would considered it. But c'mon who ever posts those pictures you know there is a whole other story behind it, like your kid crying bloody murder because he wanted the cute little pumpkin, not the big one that you want for "the perfect" picture. This is what we did we went to walmart and bought them six little pumpkins they like them so much that Luca even kisses his good night.

3. We don't get them crazy expensive store bought Halloween costumes, we just make them ourselves. We have fun coming up with ideas and then we let our imagination do the rest, plus if you know us you know that everyday is Halloween in this house.

4. We failed on teaching them Spanish first :( but hey they speak very good Spanglish.

5. We played The doors, pink floyd, Wu Tang, Frankie Lymon, Beethoven, Taylor Swift and we let them played drums with pots and pans and guitar with the broom because we like to believe that's how rockstars got started.

I can probably come out with like ten other horrible things that we do as parents but I am going to just live it at that. I guess the point of this post it's just to tell everybody out there that it's ok if your kid is not on private school, it's ok if you co-sleep, it's ok if they don't have the latest wood toy, it's ok if you yelled sometimes, it's ok if you have a beer or a glass of wine, it's ok because parenting it's not easy. You know the more people that try to judge us as parents the prouder I feel about being the parent that I am, because I seriously DO NOT GIVE A DAMN about what people think, as a mom I believe that I have developed my own style with my kids, I don't care for tips from other perfect mothers, I'll rather trust my own instincts, my kids are going to be complicated, they are going to have bad days and they probably would make me cry but they will be amazing too, just like every other human. 

ahhhh! venting feels really good!! 

Laura.
XO

THE DAY I ASK AMNER TO MARRY ME BY EMAIL!

I have always heard beautiful stories about engagements, actually 2 of my very best friends got engage at the peek of the Machu Picchu in Peru, so try to top that suckers!! 

I never thought about the way my dream man would propose to me and honestly I never thought about my wedding day when I was a little girl. I guess, I was a little too busy making chocolate cakes with mud, riding my bike into the river, playing with my brother and practicing in front of the mirror to become the next Selena ( YES, I WANTED TO BE HER SO BAD) I was busy growing up, I had no time to daydream about proposals and planning weddings.

I was on my computer Thursday morning and somehow I end up looking at a series of images of people getting married outside the courthouse in New York, the pictures were for fashion purposes but the pictures meant more than that for me, they all tell a love story.

I open my email and I started typing:

From: Laura Rodriguez [mailto:laurarodriguez@vivadjs.com]
Sent: Thursday, August 22, 2013 11:02 AM
To: Amner Martinez
Subject: Marriage!

Tu dices que te quieres casar conmigo no?

yo digo que me quiero casar contigo!!

y si no es una cosa o la otra no lo hacemos 

y lo mas probable es q nunca lo hagamos

q por dinero, q por q queremos una fiesta 

y todo eso, y no digo que todo eso no lo sea

importante oh hermoso, PERO.

numero 1. Tenemos deudas hasta las orejas, lo cual quiere decir q tendriamos q esperar como 2 anos!

numero 2. Nunca hemos sido tu tradicional pareja entonces por q ahora vamos hacer las cosas tradicionales!

numero 3. Y la mas importante Se q siempre dije q no creia en el matrimonio y a veces siento q asi es, pero 

eso no es mi culpa la verdad nunca fui criada en un matrimonio, nunca nadie me hablo de eso ni pusieron suenos 

en mi de nina de el dia de mi boda en mi vestido blanco, y de q alo mejor algun dia mi abuelo me podria caminar al altar 

cuando conociera al amor de mi vida, miles de veces creo q yo misma me convenci de q no queria una boda por que no 

me la merecia, aun no creo en casarse por la iglesia enfrente de dios y en una fiesta para 200 gorrones que les tengo que hacer

creer q te amo. Para nunca tenerlos felices.

Y NO TENGO POR QUE COMPLACER AL MUNDO, EL PUNTO ES QUE TE AMO, TE AMO MAS QUE AMI PROPIO SER Y SIMPLE Y SENCILLAMENTE NO ME IMAGINO UNA VIDA SIN TI, EL RESTO DE MIS DIAS LOS IMAGINO CONTIGO Y NUESTROS HIJOS AMI LADO TRATANDO DE ENTENDER ESTA MARAVILLOSA COSA QUE ES LA VIDA. QUIERO CASARME CONTIGO AHORA POR QUE DESPUES TODO LO VIVIDO NUNCA HE ESTADO MAS SEGURA DE QUE TU ERES EL AMOR DE MI VIDA Y SE QUE SUENA MEGA CURSI PERO ES LA VERDAD, POR QUE PUEDO TRATAR DE EXPLICARLE AL MUNDO ENTERO TODO LO QUE HA PASADO Y NADIE NUNCA ENTENDIERA EL NIVEL DE TODO LO QUE NOS HA PASADO SOLO TU QUE SIEMPRE HAS ENCONTRADO LO MEJOR DE MI.

Y CREO QUE LO QUIERO DECIR O MEJOR DICHO PREGUNTARTE ES QUE SI QUIERES CASARTE CONMIGO? VAMOS A CITY HALL Y NOS CASAMOS CUESTA $35 NO QUIERO UN ANILLO AMNER, NO QUIERO QUE ME PROPONGAS MATRIMONIO EN UNA MANERA SUPER ROMANTICA Y QUE TE PONGAS DE RODILLAS TODO ESO ME CHOCA SOLO TE QUIERO ATI, OH BUENO TAMBIEN QUIERO UN VESTIDO BLANCO NUEVO, CORTITO Y UNA CORONA DE FLORES Y A NUESTROS HIJOS Y NUESTRAS MAMAS Y AL PINCHE KENJI Y A ELY.

AND I GUESS THIS IS MY WAY OF PROPOSING TO YOU!

TE AMO HOY Y SIEMPRE.

LAU.

here is the translation:

You say you want to marry me right?

I say, I want to marry you!

And if is not one thing or the other, we never do it,

and let's be honest we probably would never do it,

there is always something, because we don't have the money,

because we want a big party, there is always something and I am

not saying that all those thing are important and maybe beautiful BUT.

number 1. We own so much money that we probably would have to wait about 2 years.

number 2. We have never been a traditional couple, so why should we be doing things the traditional way now.

number 3. And the most important one, I know I always told you I didn't belie in marriage and sometimes I do believe that, but that's not really my fault. I wasn't raised on one, we never talk about my wedding dress, or about my Grandpa walking me down the altar to marry the love of my life! I sometimes think that I convinced myself that I didn't wanted a wedding because I didn't felt like I deserve one. I don't believe on a wedding that is done on a church in front of a god and then trowing a party for 200 people to convince them that I love you. 

I DON'T HAVE TO CONVINCED THE WORLD, THE POINT IS THAT I LOVE YOU,  I LOVE YOU MORE THAN MY OWN BE, VERY SIMPLE I COULD NEVER IMAGINE A LIFE WITHOUT YOU, I IMAGINE THE REST OF MY DAYS WITH YOU, WITH THE KIDS BY OUR SIDE TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THIS WONDERFUL THING THAT IS LIFE. I WANT TO MARRY YOU NOW BECAUSE AFTER EVERYTHING I HAVE LIVED, I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE SURE THAT YOU ARE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE, AND I KNOW IT SOUNDS CORNY AS HELL BUT IS THE TRUTH, I COULD TRY TO EXPLAIN TO THE WORLD EVERYTHING THAT HAS EVER HAPPEN TO US AND NO ONE WOULD EVER UNDERSTAND IT EXCEPT YOU BECAUSE YOU ALWAYS FIND THE BEST OF ME.

I GUESS WHAT I WANT TO SAY OR ASK YOU, IS IF YOU WANT TO MARRY ME, WE GO TO CITY HALL AND WE GET MARRIED IT'S ONLY $35, I DON'T WANT A RING AMNER, I DON'T WAN YOU TO GET IN YOUR KNEES AND PROPOSE TO ME IN A VERY ROMANTIC WAY, ALL OF THAT MAKES ME WANT TO PUKE, I JUST WANT YOU, WELL I ALSO WANT A NEW SHORT WHITE DRESS, A FLOWER CROWN, OUR KIDS, OUR MOMS AND OF COURSE KENJI AND ELY.

AND I GUESS THIS IS MY WAY OF PROPOSING TO YOU?

I LOVE YOU TODAY AND FOREVER.

LAU.

When I started writing the email it was kind of just a joke, but the more I typed, I realized that I did wanted to marry him, that I wanted our family and friends to celebrate with us this beautiful amazing love that attach us to each other, I thought about the day when I will show Azul pictures of my dress and tell her how amazing is it to be married to the love of your life.

August, 22nd of 2013 is a date I would never forget, is the day I propose to the love of my life on an email ;)

Cheers to love!!

Lau.

P.S. We got married last Friday at city hall, and then we had a party on Saturday, I will be posting about the wedding in the next few days but for now I would live you with the first song we danced as husband and wife, we were extremely lucky to have our super talented friends IZCALLI here from Denver to play in our wedding, Mil gracias otra vez chavos los adoramos.